Listen. No Really, Listen!

Mr. Rafal

Mr. Rafal

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it." - Poe
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*One of the biggest disagreements I have ever had in a professional setting occurred almost entirely because the person I was chatting with perceived that I was not listening to them. This disagreement had very real consequences, including me not continuing my work at that location for an additional year. It was a crazy situation […]

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A Gentleman’s Perspective on Fatherhood

Mr. Kosovich

Mr. Kosovich

Guest Writer at The Modern Day Gentleman
Mr. Kosovich is an engineer living in Colorado Springs, Colorado. He enjoys whiskey and tobacco, and fills his free time home brewing and singing. He is married and has two daughters.
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If I (over a scotch and a pipe) were to ask you to shortly and simply define fatherhood, how would you respond? In today’s society, fatherhood does not mean what it used to. The modern portrayal of fathers on TV, movies, commercials, etc. varies greatly. Some fathers are depicted as severe, sexist, and self-centered – […]

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3 Questions To Help You Remain Intentional About Your Growth in 2016

Mr. Reed

Mr. Reed

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy." - Norman Schwarzkopf
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We are more than half of the way through 2016 at this point, and most of you inevitably feel some measure of exhaustion. We move at an alarmingly fast rate in our world today, and if we aren’t constantly intentional to take a step back from the whirlwind, we can find ourselves looking up in […]

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Take a Chill Pill

Mr. Reed

Mr. Reed

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy." - Norman Schwarzkopf
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In this week’s article, I have no significant idea to share with you, or weighty proposition to wager. What I have to share is not revolutionary or ground-breaking. In fact, it’s rather mundane and ordinary. In our last few articles we’ve focused on some heavy and challenging topics. We talked about living as a modern […]

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The Shortcut to Depth in Your Relationships – *Spoiler*…There Isn’t One

Mr. Reed

Mr. Reed

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy." - Norman Schwarzkopf
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We live in an age of immediacy. The readiness and accessibility of information is broader than it has ever been before in history. This has undoubtedly done immeasurable good in innumerable ways. However, I would argue that it has also unfortunately bred a generation focused on and valuing many of the wrong things. One example […]

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The Merits of Slowing Down to Smoke

Mr. Rafal

Mr. Rafal

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it." - Poe
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Spring, such a beautiful and tumultuous time in Colorado. Finally it is warm enough to smoke outside, provided the weather holds and we don’t get snow tomorrow. And since smoking outside is the only option open to my friends and I, this is an exciting time indeed. Already the idea has been broached, “Let’s go […]

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Abraham Lincoln on the Importance of Reading in a Gentleman’s Life

Mr. Reed

Mr. Reed

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy." - Norman Schwarzkopf
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“Sorry, I’m just not a reader”. I can remember myself saying that line on many occasions growing up. I’d bet at least a handful of you can remember yourself saying it too. And while maybe for some of you it was a clever way to get out of extra reading at home, for me it […]

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What Bonsai Trees Teach Us About Being a Gentleman

Mr. Reed

Mr. Reed

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy." - Norman Schwarzkopf
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Patience. It is one of the very first things we are taught to practice in our lives. “Wait for your brother to be done playing with that toy”, our moms instructed. “Be patient, the storm will pass”, our dads told us after our first heartbreak. “Persevere longer than your opponent, and you will be the […]

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The Monday Sweet Spot – 02/01/2016

Mr. Reed

Mr. Reed

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy." - Norman Schwarzkopf
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We’ve all hit that point during a smoke, usually about half way through, in which the cigar’s flavors and aromas open up and transform the experience into something far more rich, complex, and enjoyable. In this moment, gentlemen, you’ve hit the “sweet spot”. A moment that encourages you to open your senses, and to truly […]

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Embracing Loneliness

Mr. Reed

Mr. Reed

Founding Member at The Distinguished Society of Fine Gentlemen
"Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character. But if you must be without one, be without the strategy." - Norman Schwarzkopf
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When was the last time you set aside an evening to be alone? Depending on your life’s circumstances, chances are you can look back in the last month or two and remember at least one evening that you spent without others around. But with that said, I want to dig one level deeper. When was […]

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