“Sorry, I’m just not a reader”.
I can remember myself saying that line on many occasions growing up. I’d bet at least a handful of you can remember yourself saying it too. And while maybe for some of you it was a clever way to get out of extra reading at home, for me it was something I absolutely identified myself with. If someone recommended a good book, my immediate reaction was to stop them and say my classic line, “oh man that sounds awesome and I’m sure it’s a great read. But, sorry, I’m just not really a reader.”
That would stop the conversation in its tracks and we’d quickly move on. But I’m willing to admit that I missed out on a lot of rich wisdom in those years of my life. In my inability and/or unwillingness to press into something I was uncomfortable with, I deprived myself of many great opportunities to learn and to grow.
If you have found yourself saying the above phrase in the past, or even still today, I want to use this time to help shed some light on its potential destructiveness to our ability to lead and carry ourselves as gentlemen in this modern day.
I still don’t love to read. It’s never been extremely easy for me. To be honest, I re-read a lot of what I intake because my mind often wanders too abruptly to stay focused. But…I love digesting information and I love to be curious, to discover, and to inquire. These are all things that are satisfied almost completely by a hunger for reading. But for whatever reason I was not able to pair these things very well growing up.
What I’ve learned, however, is that although reading doesn’t come extremely naturally to me, it certainly doesn’t make it any less important to press into.
The widespread availability of audiobooks has certainly helped my ability to intake the important information contained in books. It allows me to do something “passively” while I chew on the content. From driving down the road, to playing with silly putty, anything I can do that doesn’t take a large amount of “mental bandwidth” is really helpful for me as I listen to quench my tendency to focus elsewhere, while still allowing me to genuinely think on the content as it’s read.
Now, with that said, I still think it’s important that we read. Actually read. Physical books. I know that’s not the direction we are heading in our culture and society. All of our information is being fed to us at breakneck speeds. The quicker the better. The more streamlined, the more efficient, the better. I’m all for efficiency, trust me. But this is not an area I believe we are to cut corners on. This is the growth of our minds, and the forming of our beliefs and values that we are talking about here. Much of our worldview comes from the information we ingest. Don’t take that lightly. Don’t do it so quickly that it doesn’t have the time it needs to stir inside of you and incite the proper responses that help you grow.
I will continue to listen to audio books during my commute to work, or as I travel. I love that medium and am so thankful it’s available to us. However, gentlemen, do not do this as a replacement for reading. Do it as a compliment to it. Your future self, and the people you are yet to know and influence will thank your present self for your commitment to the important discipline you are faithfully practicing.
Look at all the brilliant and wise minds that have been voracious readers. I’ve said this many times before, but it’s worth reiterating. If you observe someone you know to be of good character and virtue taking part in any activity regularly, it’s something you should be careful to take a closer look at implementing into your own life. This area is no exception to that rule.
Though there are innumerable brilliant men and women who have been outspoken proponents of the practice of reading, one of the more influential, in my opinion, was the 16th President of the United States. Abraham Lincoln himself.
Lincoln was constantly advocating for people of all ages to dive deeply into whatever books they could get their hands on. And he was a faithful practicer of his preaching, as they say.
Here at the Modern Day Gentlemen, every once in awhile we like to point you away from our blog, to others who are curating valuable content on a given topic. This is one of those topics. I certainly am not prideful or ignorant enough to say that I am any sort of authority in this area. But there are others who have taken an extremely close look at Honest Abe’s love for reading, and have studied its influence on him as he grew to become one of the most respected and honored gentlemen in history.
So without further ado, I present this wonderful article from the gentlemen over at artofmanliness.com.
Don’t forget to comment below with what books are you reading right now that are having a positive impact on the way you are living your life. Or any books that have influenced you in the past to grow you into the man you are today! We’d love to hear any and all recommendations!
Welcome back to our series on the libraries of great men. The eminent men of history were often voracious readers and their own philosophy represents a distillation of all the great works they fed into their minds. This series seeks to trace the stream of their thinking back to the source. For, as David Leach, a now retired business executive put it: “Don’t follow your mentors; follow your mentors’ mentors.”
While many of America’s presidents came from prominent, educated homes, one of our most famous — Abraham Lincoln — did not. Growing up in the backwoods of Kentucky and then Indiana, Lincoln rarely enjoyed the privilege of full-time schooling. His formal education, in his own words, came “by littles,” “did not amount to one year,” and was thoroughly “defective.”
And yet Honest Abe rose in society to become a shop owner, lawyer, and of course, President of the United States. How did he do this without much in the way of formal education?
He taught himself, becoming the consummate autodidact.
From traditional schoolboy texts like Nicholas Pike’s New and Complete System of Arithmetic and Thomas Dilworth’s New Guide to the English Tongue, to classic works we know today like Benjamin Franklin’s Autobiography and Robinson Crusoe, the young Lincoln read whatever he could get his hands on. He borrowed books from all his neighbors, until he could truthfully tell a friend that he had “read through every book he had ever heard of in that country, for a circuit of 50 miles.”
Lincoln would transcribe favorite quotes and passages from the works he read into a copybook, but he also committed reams of material to memory. This storehouse of literary and historical tidbits would come in handy throughout his life and impress those he met; he could recite a long poem at will, seemed to know the entire Bible by heart, and always had just the right story or analogy at his disposal to illustrate and explain his arguments.
This course of self-study naturally had to be squeezed into spare moments before, after, and between his daily chores and responsibilities. He would read until the last rays of the sun went down in summer, and until the embers in the fireplace failed to give off any light even in the faintest glow in winter. He kept a book in the crack of a log in the loft where he slept, so he could resume reading as soon as the dawn light broke. During the day, he always had a book with him, out of which to read snatches whenever he could. As a boy, his marked preference for “reading, scribbling, writing, ciphering, writing Poetry, etc.” over manual labor, led some of his family members to feel he was lazy. But when he entered his teen years, he became more committed to not indulging his studies until his chores were complete or he had earned a rest. So it was that he was often seen with both a book and an axe in his hands, and in this way he honed both body and mind as he grew into manhood.
When he was 23, Lincoln and a partner ran a small general store in New Salem, Illinois, a career that left young Abe with a good number of hours to read. Under the shade of a tree right outside the store’s entrance, he perused newspapers, studied scientific and philosophical texts, and developed a love for Shakespeare and the poetry of Robert Burns. He also began reading a complete edition of Blackstone’s Commentaries on the Laws of England, which he unexpectedly found at the bottom of a barrel he had purchased. These legal texts intrigued Lincoln; “The more I read,” he later recalled, “the more intensely interested I became. Never in my whole life was my mind so thoroughly absorbed. I read until I devoured them.” Lincoln’s studies would spur him to enter public life and to become a lawyer – a profession he mastered by his usual method – by teaching himself.
As Lincoln got older and became a politician, his reading regimen took a bit of a dip, but he continued to peruse books, giving each a chance. But if he did not find the work interesting or informative, he wasn’t against setting it aside. His tastes leaned decidedly towards non-fiction, once telling a friend: “It may seem somewhat strange to say, but I never read an entire novel in my life.” But even historical and scientific texts sometimes bored him, and he most enjoyed newspapers, shorter stories, and humorous prose.
While books did not always engage Lincoln, his appetite for poetry would remain undiminished throughout his life. As fellow attorney Milton Hay recalled, “The poets undoubtedly had their influence on Lincoln’s style and probably on his mind.” Scholar Douglas Wilson also notes Lincoln’s lasting affinity for poetry:
“One of the truly remarkable things about Lincoln as president is the extent to which he resorted to literature. Perhaps no president turned to English poetry while in office with the frequency that Lincoln did. He continued to recite his old favorites, such as ‘O Why Should the Spirit of Mortal Be Proud?’ or Holmes’ ‘The Last Leaf,’ their melancholy and brooding concern for human mortality having been rendered even more apt by the somber circumstances of civil war. And he read poets such as Thomas Hood to invoke the lighter side. But he repeatedly returned to Shakespeare.”
Shakespeare and Burns would remain Lincoln’s perennial favorites. Aide John Hay recalled that Abe “read Shakespeare more than all other writers together,” and it was said that Lincoln could quote Burns’ verse by the hour. Scholars David Harkness and R. Gerald McMurty posit the reason behind this fondness for the Scottish poet: “Born to poverty and obscurity, rising to heights of fame and popularity through long years of hard work, their lives present an interesting parallel. It is appropriate that Abe Lincoln should have found a kindred spirit in Bobby Burns, who spoke to his heart of the innermost yearnings, disappointments, and sorrows which both had experienced through similar backgrounds.”
Perhaps Lincoln turned to poetry, with its rhythmic, stirring, and sometimes haunting words, to cope with and understand his melancholic disposition. Rather than consume himself with tales of adventure (like Teddy Roosevelt was wont to do) it seemed that Abe needed to feel what he was reading, especially as he aged.
Below you’ll find a list of books that Abraham Lincoln read and enjoyed and learned from. The novels are mostly from his younger years, but as noted, he did peruse and skim through numerous books throughout his adult life. Take a page from our 16th president’s habits, and delve into the world of poetry; you’ll connect not only with Honest Abe, but perhaps your own inner depths as well.
|The Arabian Nights
|Slavery, Discussed in Original Essays
|History of the U.S.||George Bancroft|
||Henry Ward beecher|
|Commentaries on the Law
|The Pilgrim’s Progress||John Bunyan|
|Elements of Character
|A New Guide to the English Tongue||Thomas Dilworth|
|Journals and Debates of the Federal Constitution
|Sociology for the South
|History of Illinois
|Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin
|Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire||Edward Gibbon|
|The Theory and Practice of Surveying
|Fanny, With Other Poems
||Oliver Wendell Holmes|
|Joe Miller’s Book of Jests
|Commentaries on American Law
||Henry Wadsworth Longfellow|
||Edgar Allen Poe|
|An Authentic Narrative of the Loss of the American Brig Commerce
|Lessons in Elocution
|The Life of George Washington
||Mason L. Weems|
||John Stuart Mill|
|Analogy of Religion